A child watches as a mother cuddles her daughter into their play together. A teenage girl walks beyond a group of peers as they laugh and talk together. A young man lays aside his values to become part of a crowd. A single mom flips the pages of a magazine as she sees couples strolling through the park. An elderly man chooses a daisy and ponders the hole left in his heart from the loss of his beloved spouse. Loneliness is a world-wide epidemic.
There is loneliness and then there is pathological loneliness. We all experience Bat in Attic loneliness occasionally throughout our lives when there is a loss of a loved one, loss of a relationship, or your child goes away to start his own life. But pathological isolation is like a bottomless pit. Once the emptiness takes hold it seems almost impossible to fill up with love. Just like a leaky cup losing water; the hole in the victim’s heart never seems to heal. No matter how many men and women reach out to assist, love-hunger continues to gnaw away at the person whenever he or she is alone. This kind of emptiness is most commonly caused from deep emotional wounds that have been inflicted in childhood.
When children do not get adequate affection and affirmation they find themselves lacking in self-esteem, confidence, and purpose as they grow. They frequently flounder in their social skills, education, and mental stability. They have trouble receiving God’s love and question His care for them. All of that leaves them wanting and lonely.
He knows how to fill all the cracks and crevices where loneliness lurks. He promises He will never leave you or abandon you.
There’s a lot you can do to help yourself go out of your isolation and build new friendships that can be both stimulating and fulfilling.
• Recognize what it is that causes your lonely feelings.
• Describe the effects that loneliness has in your life, both physically and emotionally.
• Make a list of possible adjustments that can be brought about on your own and your activities to allow more social interaction.
• Look for individuals who share similar attitudes, interests, and values with you.
• Develop new friendships by joining small groups like a Bible Study, book club or walking group.
• Volunteer to sit on a committee or search for options to function in your community. These opportunities are both beneficial and rewarding to your emotional health as you meet people and cultivate new friendships and social interactions.
• learn how to see yourself as God sees you. You were created with unique gifts, abilities and personality traits which will be a blessing others.
Loneliness can be overcome; however you will have to make a conscious effort on your part to make a change in your daily routines. Making the attempt to alter the way you see social activities, friendships and yourself can eventually make you happier and healthier. You may surprise yourself in the way you positively impact others around you.